Wednesday, December 31, 2008

The Scene
For the last 4 years, Mr. Diabolina and I have kept things pretty low key on New Year's Eve. We typically have the Rose Bowl bright and early the next day. You know how it is when you went to the best the Universe ;)

Tonight was probably the most low key New Year's of the last 10 we've spent together. Mr. D was still feeling under the weather so he curled up with my Obama book most of the night.

Early in the night, I met my mom and we got our nails did.

Nothing like stripper nails to ring in the new year ;)

Tonight ended up being the perfect night to quietly reflect on the rollercoaster of a year it's been. To remember the beautiful moments and the heartbreaking ones. How much has changed and how much has stayed the same. How much I've grown and how far I still have left to go.

This year, I quit one job and started another. I traveled to Portland and Puerto Vallarta for the first time. I played with my closest friends all over the country: Jean Bean in Austin, Peaches in San Francisco, Jean Bean AND Peaches in New York, Flower in Boston and Mr. NBC back in New York.

I randomly ran into both my childhood best friend and Dylan McKay. I partied at Saks and at Chanel and at Armani and at Tarina Tarantino - and ended up buying something from each of those stores this year too.

I celebrated with Mr. D as he turned 31 and we marked our 10 year anniversary of being happily unmarried. I beamed with pride as he chaired his third successful fundraiser and won his first trial. I even cajoled him into writing a little funny fashion something for the blog.

I survived grueling bootcamp classes and my first 5K mud race. I dared to wear leather leggings to a Hollywood hot spot, shorts on the verge of my 31st birthday and a Betsey Johnson dress I bought when I was 16.

I watched one friend become engaged and another turn a year older and wiser. I saw one friend lose the ability to walk while other friends lost the right to marry. I bonded with strangers on the internets and revisited a shared history with one of my oldest friends.

I dressed up as Madonna on my birthday and Karl Lagerfeld for Halloween. I was bolstered by love on one day and horrified by hate on another. I pegged my jeans and wore - yikes - PINK by Victoria Secret.

I was equally enthralled by Julio Iglesias and NKOTB in concert. I bought YSL shoes on layaway and was given a free pair with red soles from the kind peeps at Solestruck.

I supported Sable Crow at two Trevor Project fundraisers - one where we rocked a Miss Universe crown, the other where we met Rachel Zoe and Michael Patrick King. Oh and I also encouraged him to start a blog, reacquaint himself with his writing, with his own voice. Kinda a big deal.

I spent 67 days out of the last 365 with my mom - laughing and eating and watching movies and duh, shopping. We celebrated Mother's Day and her birthday. She held my hand as I pondered motherhood and I held hers as she was diagnosed with a brain tumor. I watched her become a citizen and then proudly vote to elect the first black man President of the United States.

And this year, one year to the day, I started a blog. On a lark. I figured it would be a great way to keep in touch with Jean Bean. To stay motivated to work out and get my fashion mojo back.

Figured it might also create some structure for my writing, give me some discipline. I 'd write every day - not because I had to but because I wanted to. Because I wanted to chronicle my life.

Never thought I'd be able to accomplish what I've accomplished: documenting every single day of my life for an entire year. Every outfit. Every event. Every major emotion.

Never ever imagined anyone would read it. Not really. Not regularly. Never dreamed of 64,321 visits, 214,592 page views.

Never dreamed it would change not only how I see myself but how others see me. Old friends now glimpse different sides of me, layers of my personality. There's a window into my life and my SELF that never existed before.

And I think these friends may even see themselves a little differently because of that. Now that they see themselves through my eyes, through my writing, through my prism.

Never imagined dozens of women - strangers from all over the world - would write me. With questions and compliments. That they would take the time to tell me how much they love my writing, or my relationship with my mom, or the way I dress. That they find me - GULP - inspiring.

Never thought I would create a place for women and a couple of men ;) to come together and laugh and forget and share and cry and BE. Never imagined I would find such joy in reading their comments, never thought their support would see me through some of the darkest days of my life.

Never imagined I would be so accepted. For loving clothes and shoes and bags more than I should. For being silly sometimes, deep other times. For being a storyteller. For being open. For being me. The real me.

So I made this little video. And - UGH!- being the total vag I am I got choked up within seconds. And F! the orientation's all wrong and the angle not flattering on chubby cheeks. But it's the thought that counts, right ;)

Kiss you and happy new year -make it one that counts!

The Outfit
Fashion District cape
Gap long sleeve tee
Old Navy jeans

The Accessories
Tory Burch shoes
Chanel purse and earrings
Ray Bans

The Grade
D is for Diabolina Didn't Care Today

The Commentary
Yes this cozy turtleneck/Slanket AH-gain. Chic Intution is featuring an expensive and cheap chic version here - can you guess which is which?

Just wanted to be comfortable and get out of work as fast as possible today. Hence the flats - my new Tory's. I heart.

And the new sunnies. After all my future's so bright I gotta wear shades :)


weezermonkey said...

Blogging is the best. It lets us express ourselves. It helps us remember. It makes us new friends.

The blogosphere loves you. :)

Carly E said...

Awesome video and awesome site :)

I think you should post more video :)

Happy New Year - I hope the year brings you much joy and lots of fun fashion!

Sydney, Australia

Anonymous said...

I love your site and I hope that you are able to update it was often as you do.

Stay classy, Los Angeles ;)

MissJordyPants said...

Catching up on all of your shenanigans for the best few weeks. I had so many mental notes and then that video of m&m cleared them all as I sat at my desk in tears. How lucky you are to have such an amazingly strong and happy lady in your life. I'm so proud of her!

Love your video too! How beautiful to see how you are affected by how you affect others. It's an amazing and beautiful little circle. Thank you for sharing yourself and for letting me be a part of your year.

Yah for 2009!

Victoria said...

awww congrats!!!!

Anonymous said...

LOVE your year end re-cap. As someone who knows you, I love that I hear your voice when I read your blog. It's like getting to chat with you everyday despite everyone's crazy lives. Keep it up. Happy New Year! - love, St. JudE.

Kelley said...

I loved the video. So genuine! I think the fact that I had to tilt my head to watch it gave it character. :)

Happy New Year to you too! And your outfit - um...yeah, that's me on an A day!

Sarah said...

Happy new year! Thank you for blogging and giving fashion challenged people like myself ideas on how to spruce up my wardrobe. I got a burberry jacket at one of your resale shops in santa monica. I love it! You translated perfectly in your video. So i had to come out of lurking to say so.

Angel @ said...

i have loved reading your blog this year. here's to another fab year of love, life and fashion. ;-)

Fashion_Loving_Stylist said...

I heart you and this blog. Thank you for all the inspiration.

WendyB said...

Oh my gaw! I got choked up watching your video. Thank you for thanking us!

tam pham said...

kiss you. happy new year, dear friend!

Anonymous said...

That was such a great video - you are adorable!! I love reading your blog every day and I am inspired by your advice to do something that scares you. Keep up the awesome blog!! :)

Sable Crow said...

I love the video. You translate all right! No more excuses. 2009 is a great time for a video brand. Gets them used to seeing you on television. F.

You're a dream Diabolina. You've helped me speak, though I thought I never would again. It's slow, and I'm not as dedicated as you. But I'm doing it at my pace, in my way. And I made those first few steps while holding your hand.

I'm curled up tonight with a big black hard-bound copy of Dracula. It's a monster; silver details and dragons grace its cover.

Here's my new years gift to you:

"There are darknesses in life and there are lights, and you are one of the lights, the light of all lights."

-Dr. Van Helsing to Mina
-Sable Crow to Diabolina

Ly said...

Great post! I'm so glad I ran into your blog through Wemo on the Nest, when I did. I read it as often as I can. On ocassion, still ask myself "what would Diabolina do":) Love how candid, open and REAL you are. The VLOG confirmed your sincerity, almost brought me to tears! May this new year of blogging be even more sucessful than the last, may you continue to inspire fashionistas all over the world!
P.S. Are you still taking "Dear Diabolina" requests? If so, I have a 40's vintage glam soiree in April, and still unsure of what to wear! Need your advice:)



G said...

going back to b-school tmro, so of course had to catch up on all the MSSFD i missed before the torture starts lucky am i that this end of year recap was first...beyond adore your video (CUTENESS!) and your's no wonder that you've racked up so many readers...see you soon...

Milly said...

and thank you!!....oh you sounded exactly like i thought you like the black cape

Jean Bean said...

You're so beautiful and I miss you so much! xoxoxoxox

Anonymous said...

D, you look beautiful in the video. I'm so glad we got reacquainted. Best of the best to you in 2009. XO, Nene

Anonymous said...

What a great recap. How fast a year flies by. Hope you have a great 2009! May all of the best things in life surprise us in the years to come.

Lisa said...

You are so incredibly fabulous, I just don't have the words! Thanks for being so dedicated to your blog. It is always a bright spot in my day. Here's to an even more amazing 2009 :).

Tiffany said...

Happy New Year girl! So glad I found your blog, it is always a great read.

great recap, what a fantastic year you've had! Will watch the video when I get a chance!

Fabianna (H.Finn Jewelry) said...

Love the video. Got teared up myself. Thanks for being an inspiration to a fellow blogger and not being afraid to be exactly who you are in front of all of us. BTW, I work at the one in Sherman Oaks..:)

Mr. Architect said...

D - you get an A! we are leading separate lives but always on the same tip. From our moms, our friends, our jobs, our desire to move the world forward, your inspiring intellectual observations, and hunger for knowledge, our common amusement/obsession with the shallow, but ultimate respect for the 'smart' (meaning any outfit with glasses) you inspire and make me laugh - I hope we will continue to become closer in 2009.
Happy New Year!

amber said...

oh D! i just want to give you a big 'ol hug right now! much love to you in the coming year. your blog is awesome, you def. translate well on video and i want you to keep all of this up and then some in the coming year.

thank you for reminding us to challenge ourselves. to step outside of our comfort zone and try new things. thank you for reminding us all to live each day to the fullest.

love you lots.

xoxo, amber


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